The Adventures of a SAH (stay-at-home) Mom

Liam

Vince

After having two kids, my life is a chaos. It is now impossible for me to go out alone. Time alone is a privilege I always dream of. I have a three-year old toddler and a nine month old baby, both are boys. So, my house is naturally filled with chaos and noise of shouting and crying. Tough though, i couldn't imagine my life without my boys.

Being a SAH mom was not even in my plan. I told my husband after I gave birth, I want to go back to work. I'm a school teacher, I love my career and I believe teaching is my passion. But then, after I found out the benefits of breastfeeding and closely attached parenting to my baby I didn't go back to work at all. I was able to breastfeed my first son for eight months and brought him up on my own until he's 15 months old. Being SAH mom has given me the opportunity to bond with my baby and train him while growing up. My second baby too, I was able to breastfeed him up to 8 months.

I thought a SAH mom could be boring and all. I never knew it was more challenging than an 8 hour office job. Being a mom never ends in 8 hours, this is a 24/7 job. No breaks, no weekends, no holidays. I said to myself, working as a school teacher is stressful, but being a mom and wife is really tedious.

Not all my three years as a mother is about baby rearing. I am thankful because I found a job that is very flexible with my time as a mother. I get to teach again by tutoring some British students and open my own business. I was able to go back to school and continue my graduate studies. Teaching is still my passion and I want to pursue my career but maybe when the kids start going to school.

It is also a blessing that I stay at home to see the milestones of my babies. Their first smile, first word, first step. I never get them second hand. I realized how important for them to see me beside them and know that I am always there to assist. I teach them new words, read them books, fix their food, listen to their baby talk. I just love those moments.

These are all impossible without the help of my husband, Eastley. He has been my consistent help in raising the boys. He is a hands on father, from changing diapers to lulling them to sleep. He supports me all the way especially in making decisions. He is always there giving me a pat on the shoulder whenever i feel down and frustrated. I am very thankful to have a partner who stands with me through good times and tough times.

I know life is no bed of roses. The only thing that makes me strong is the faith I have that God is with me all the time. When I pray, I always say "thank you, Lord" and I never ask. What I have now is more than enough and God has provided everything for me.

As a SAH mom, I sometimes feel underestimated or understated. What the others don't know SAH moms have the hardest job in the world. Disciplining the kids, balancing checks, supervising the household chores, deciding what to cook! Haha... that's tough! I'm lucky my husband do the cooking. Managing a house is like running your own company.

Boredom is never entertained in being SAH mom. I've got all the hobbies I have to keep me busy, and one is continue studying. Just writing to share how crazy it is to be a mother all role in one.